Surrogacy in India
“Amazing teens!”, that is the exact word bounced in my mind, when I listened to my “teenaged” friend. Yep! my social circle consists of varied age groups. From kids of age group 8 to 10 years, to mature persons of 25 to 35 years age group and then a few seniors (my father’s colleagues). Guess what?? most of these asks me, when I’ll be getting married? It has become part a social greeting, in my circle. But recently, one of the teen friend, who probably going through emotional turmoil because of rough phase of his newly found relationship, told me that he does not want to get into “emotional affairs” anymore. He found that the females of his age group, unfaithful and insensitive. Then he progressed into his future plans and also advised me not to get married. I suggested him, “A life spent without finding love, is not a good way to go. One needs family and children to build world around”. Then this teen, who was determined not to trust female gender, told me, that he will not get married but instead will opt for a child from a surrogate mother. Then, he suggested me to go for the same option. The benefits! he elaborated further, independent life and no botheration of a wife, just you and your kids.
“Oh my God!” I thought. These kids are so advanced. I was surprised to hear all this from a teenaged friend, but at the same time, his suggestion were so practical and likable. I do agree, it is a good option for the men, who are not finding a “suitable life partner”. This kid went further and told me, why this surrogacy thing is best option? He suggested that, one can choose eggs from female donors of their liking. “Vicky Donor movie nahi dekhi kya aap ney?”, he asked me. I said, “I haven’t”. He then said,”you must see this movie. Its a total fun to watch!”. Now, I think, “I must watch Vicky Donor movie,e as soon as possible”.
While searching about surrogate mothers and availability of female eggs on internet, I came to know that, this option is mostly chosen by gays and lesbians. Because they prefer to live with same gender partner. I am not part of these types of groups. But, I asked my self,”What is wrong in it, if a straight man likes to have his own child while living as single?”. “Nothing wrong!”, answered my inner self. “But what about the divine duty towards society?”. Yes! for men like me, who live on spiritual ground are very much living for society and nature. The “Hindu Vedic morals” guide our thoughts and life path. No-matter how scientific and Divinely blessed may it look, to have a child from a surrogate mother, but it will push us to a social order where, woman will loose her divinely/natural noble stature in “synthetic society of future”.
On a spiritual life path, a man normally avoids the steps where he has to become a “self-fish” person. As we know, it leads towards falsehood and depletes the conscious order, from Godhead to mere-mortal animal like. Till now, I have been walking in divine order and its rope is very fragile, one wrong step takes to path of illusion and its then becomes much harder to catch back the track. I still think of the harmonious social order as best civilized social support system where man can progress towards divinity. Persons, those who can not comprehend what divinity and God is? I tell them a simple phrase,”If you want love and care in this world, you have to seed them first in your own heart. The day you do this you step in divine conscious order”.